Marriage

Marriage is big term:
For me marriage is the knot of two different people having opposite genders. 
Two people who will share bed, room, food, income, even the life's every major event.
When tieing the knot they promise that they will try to live forever in thier lives till they die.
Their other promises are to share happiness together, provide comfort in sadness, have security of being each others, believing that he/she is all mine, fulfilling every possible wish of each other.
For me there should not be boundries for anyone between two companions.
If one wants to have some privacy then there must be privacy 
If one wants to focus on career then there must be freedom
If one wants to have child then there must be acceptance
If one wants to love beyond then there must be space
If one has few fears, then there must be trust
If one shows distrust then there must be dialogues
If one leaves without conversation then there must be time given him/her to realize what he/she wants
If there are some things that must be kept secret from other family members then there must be follow up for that
In marriage one has to think beyond ones self
I am a girl, I want a husband who loves me a lot, who takes care of me everytime, who gives me security and safety, who provides me trust and belief, who has courage to take decisions to keep the relationship healthy, who is always there in my ups and downs, who always remain there behind me in my success, who is touchy about my madness, who likes me the way I am, a bit crazy, thoughtful, out-spoken, energatic, friendly, bold, confident, independet, He must be proud of me and my nature.
I have fears that I wont get this kind of guy in this society.
Pakistan is a country where I have witnessed diplomat nature of men. They want a girl friend who has all the qualities that I have mentioned above but they would marry a girl who is all time opposite to these. Because they have a patriarchial mind-set which always resist them to marry any girl with above qualities. I am not sure what exactly they fear about it but that is what I have faced till now.
A man proposes you, saying he loves you the most because you are beautiful and bold but as soon as you start telling him what you expect from him and what are your fears that have strong impact on your thoughts he will try to take hold on your life, he will start taking decisions alone, he would ask you to leave things that you love the most. His expectations would be more and more. Ones you give hold to him, he will be your god. 
I want a husband who gives me equal oppertunity for everything as he wants for himself.
I fear losing my dignity and self-respect by my husband. Even I want him to support me maintaining my dignity and self-respect as he wants for himself.
I have simple wish that my husband must be a good human being who is sensitive as I am, who gets mad as I do, who loves me as I would love him, who would talk non-stop as I do, who would try to explore new things as I do.